F3 Hartsville Presents the 5th Edition of The Fox #CSAUP

F3 Hartsville Presents the 5th Edition of The Fox #CSAUP

B.L.U.F. – It’s hard. You’ll get better. Sign up HERE

It’s baaaack!

Mark your calendars now F3 Hartsville’s 5 year anniversary and The Fox CSAUP! Back for the 5TH consecutive year on Saturday February 8th the PAX of F3 Hartsville will host the #CSAUP that F3 Nation will be talking about the rest of the year…The Fox!

You’ve heard of The Goat and The Mule and some little fun run called The Yeti…well The Fox eats Goats, Mules and Yetis for breakfast!  That’s probably not true but after cementing The Fox into the #CSAUP Hall Of Fame last year, YHC and team have raised the bar yet again. Through each stage of planning we have erred on the side of “choosing the hard thing”. You’d think we would be experienced by now…but no, we still don’t exactly know what we’re doing so it will definitely be Completely Stupid and Utterly Pointless.

What is The Fox?

This is a team event.  Put your three or four man team together considering speed, strength and endurance will be equally relied upon in this challenge. Don’t have a team? That’s fine, sign up anyway and we will put you on a team!  We’re changing things up this year and giving options for one, two or three laps of a 4.5 mile loop course.  Sign up and compete in the 1 lap (Arctic Fox) or 2 lap (Gray Fox) division and if you’re feeling froggy go ahead and sign up for the full 3 lap (Red Fox) division.  All ruckers will do 3 laps and will go off first, staggered start times for other divisions.  The course will be hitting a few of Hartsville AO’s with some extra pain stations along the way.  We will start and end at Prestwood Country Club (because we’re classy like that, and Tater Salad is on the board.)  A major change is that this year the course will be all paved and dry unless it rains. (no “Killing Fields” from 2018 or the “Black Lagoon” from 2019.)

The Fox 2nd F

Barfly is in charge of the entertainment this year.  His favorite types of music are death metal and Mexican mariachi so who knows what will happen.  No matter what the music is, immediately following the event there will be some solid Second F at the club with beer & food provided (bring your own lawn chair). This is really what makes the event worthwhile, sharing war stories from the event with your brothers, new and old alike. Winners for each class (ruckers, runners, and dead ass last) will be announced during this time so be sure to stick around.  I hear there may even be prizes!

The Fox 2.0 Race

Be sure to bring the whole family! We will have a Fox 2.0 course set up for the young guns (boys and girls)! Race will start at 11 am.  Course will be approximately 2 miles with several “obstacles”. We will put 2.0’s on teams based on age or they can form their own team if preferred (sign them up as any racing class…it doesn’t matter) and each team will be accompanied by an adult (certainly your M or yourself are welcome to run as well). You don’t want to miss out on this part! T-shirts will be given to all who register!

The Why

Why give 3-4 hours of your Saturday to such a pointless and stupid event?  Because it’s actually the opposite of that.  You will push yourself to new heights and relish in the victory with your brothers of completing an event as tough as this!  And…because it’s not about you.  It’s about the guy who will be on your team that needs you there so that he can reach the next level.  Don’t let him down!

Who Are The Event Q’s?

Bow Tie, Ground Blind, Ragtop and Divac

Is It Ruck Friendly?

Heck yea!  We can’t promise there won’t be other heavy things to lift but this will be great training for anyone preparing for a GoRuck challenge.

What Kind Of Equipment Do I need?

Flippers, goggles, one of those triathlon unitard things….No really, normal workout gear should suffice.

How Long Will This Take?

Well that depends on how fast you move…Wheels up at 0700 for ruckers, running divisions will stagger start times after that.  Expect everyone to be done by 11:00 and enjoying some solid 2nd F.

What Does It Cost?

Nothing, zero, zilch, nada to participate.  BUT…it does cost to put the event on.  Last year we broke even, almost to the dollar! This year we are donating anything above cost to the local Boy Scouts. (Website Here)  So if you are so inclined please send a donation (in the amount of your choice, even $5 helps!) via PayPal to blake_faucette@yahoo.com  Please use “friends and family” method and indicate “The Fox” in the comments section.  Or Venmo at: @abfaucette  All registrants (including 2.0’s) will get an event T-shirt.

Who Is Invited?

All men 18+.  All of F3 Nation is invited and this could be a good chance to get some FNG’s, if they like a challenge.

Do We Need Volunteers?

Yes. We will need volunteers for pain stations, hydration stations, photography, chase car and probably more that we haven’t thought of.  If you or your M or 2.0 would be willing to volunteer, please contact one of the Q’s, indicated in the comment section at the end of the post, or sign up here.

What Is The Route?

Now that would spoil all the fun…

Where Do I Sign Up?

Please sign up here.  Sign up as an individual or a team.  If you know your team make sure that each member includes the SAME team name.  If you sign up without a team we will group individuals together the best we can.

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Farsight Fox Preview

The Fox is coming up, so YHC took this opportunity scout out the other AO’s while building up some excitement.  A solid group of 11 showed up and YHC wondered aloud if the fire ants and mosquitoes were still biting.  Karate Kid piped up and said that’s “just part of the pain of suffering.”  I like the attitude.

 

 

 

Warmup/The Main THANG

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Announcements

Fox-need signups if you want tshirts, water coolers, $$, volunteer

 

Moleskin

Live for today.  Matthew 24:36 & Matthew 6:34

 

Aye!

Groundblind

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Operation Legacy AAR

Between the hours of 0500 and 0900 on 20190420 EST, Operation Legacy was successfully completed.

GORUCK and the Travis Manion Foundation teamed up and put forth a challenge to the GORUCK Ruck Clubs to carry out service projects in honor of Fallen Heroes. The standards were to have at least 5 members in a team, ruck a few miles, complete a service project of any size, and tag it all using social media.

I started planning as soon as I got the first email on 20 March. I knew I could get 5 to do something but, I wanted it bigger. I saw a post from Carolina’s Kids that was shared by Krispy Kreme that showed empty shelves. That tugged at my heart. I had found our objective.
I started posting information once or twice a day on either GroupMe or Facebook. While thinking of who we could honor, I realized that there were names on the wall at my unit of 3 KIA i did not know. Anyone Hero would due but, it bothered me that i didn’t thier sacrifice. Names easily forgotten.

By the first deadline on 01 April I had 25 registered. I was excited. My standard for this event was going to be fill a ruck with donations and ruck that as the weight. Even that amount would have helped our objective.

Judge Judy started talking up the donation drive for the AO’s to support. That surprised me. He hadn’t even registered. Oliver Segars started collecting money donations towards a pallet of canned goods. I knew then my standards had to change.

Fox and Arrow was my main focus. But, other F3 Hartsville PAX were making a huge dent on this objective with thier own donations towards the TMF, the AO bucket collection, and the pallet.
39 donations were pledged on our TMF link which totaled to $425. The money towards the pallet actually became 2 pallets. The total weight of the food from the AO’s, rucks, and pallets came to around 2200lbs. Wow!

The actual event had a welcome party, a tactical movement with 3 improvised litters, PT sessions, and time hacks. I even involved the regular Convergence crowd. As much as i like sharing about those 4 hours, it goes against my principles of Silence, Violence, and Silence i use for my Operations.

I want to focus on the impact of this event. Andrea Pulling told me this was very touching to her. Spring Break is a rough time for these kids. We were able to plus them up from that need and secure enough food for the rest of the school year. That’s a job well done and some bellies filled. Thank you all for helping and donating to this event.

I use the word “I” a lot in this BB. It was not me, it was Him. I have felt the hand of God throughout this project. I am glad God saw fit to have me lead this. And I am grateful for everyone who stood in this gap with me.

Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart. And, may God continue to bless you.

Aye!
KLINGER

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Typical Brick City Beatdown

Conditions:  58F Clear and Breezy

Commentary: Nothing special here – YHC volunteered to Q BC, and trying for once a month.   Heard that an FNG would post in the gloom this morning – but no joy.  Then….  Hey!  Stallion showed up!  That’s better than an FNG.  Nothing too exotic here – YHC just planned a wide variety of exercises.

Disclaimer and Warm Up

  1. SSH X 20 – IC
  2. IWs X 20 – IC
  3. Windmills X 20 – IC
  4. Love me’s X 15 – IC
  5. 5 Burpees OYO

The Thang:  Mosey to Brick City

Gray Man Walk… Bear crawl the length of the parking lot and complete 10 merkins at each light pole.  wait for the six at each light

Each Pax gets a Block and 2 Bricks

  1. 20 Curls and 10 Merkins – IC
  2. 20 Overhead Press and 10 Diamond -Merkins – IC
  3. 20 Overhead Claps and 10 Wide Arm Merkins – IC
  4. 20 Goblet Squats and 10 Hand Release Merkins – IC
  5. 20 Block pull thrus – each side
  6. 10 Elf on the shelf each direction
  7. 20 Russian Twist with Block or Bricks – IC

To the benches:

Dips X 15  – IC

Decline Merkins on the benches X 15 – IC

Partner up – Partner A does Exercise while partner B runs to second light pole and back….

100 Thrusters

150 Curls

 MOM

Box-cutter X 20 IC

Flutter Kicks x 25 IC

Freddie Mercury X 20 IC

Inappropriate Bridges X 20 IC

Indian Run Back to Clinic

Burpees X 10 OYO

Announcements:

  1. Sign up for the Fox
  2. Still need $$ for Carolina Kids Food
  3. Prayers for Fudger and his family while his mother struggles with cancer
  4. Welcome back Hot Pocket!

Devotion

It’s Holy Week

Ephesians 3:16 – 19
16 
that according to xthe riches of his glory yhe may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit zin your inner being, 17 aso that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being brooted and cgrounded in love, 18 may have strength to dcomprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and eheight and depth, 19 and to know the love of Christ fthat surpasses knowledge, that gyou may be filled with all hthe fullness of God.

May God make this to be for you a week of being newly grounded in the love of Christ, so plainly on display from the resolve of Palm Sunday, to the ultimate sacrifice of Good Friday, to the triumph of Easter Sunday. And may you freshly know the love of Christ, in all its breadth and length and height and depth — and wonder upon wonder, be filled with all the fullness of God.

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F3 Hartsville Presents the 4th Edition of The Fox #CSAUP

B.L.U.F. – It’s hard. You’ll get better. Sign up HERE

It’s baaaack!

Mark your calendars now! Back for the fourth consecutive year on Saturday May 11th the PAX of F3 Hartsville will host the #CSAUP that F3 Nation will be talking about the rest of the year…The Fox!

You’ve heard of The Goat and The Mule and some little fun run called The Yeti…well The Fox eats Goats, Mules and Yetis for breakfast!  That’s probably not true but after cementing The Fox into the #CSAUP Hall Of Fame last year, YHC and team have raised the bar yet again. Through each stage of planning we have erred on the side of “choosing the hard thing”. You’d think we would be experienced by now…but no, we still don’t exactly know what we’re doing so it will definitely be Completely Stupid and Utterly Pointless.

What is The Fox?

This is a team event.  Put your three or four man team together considering speed, strength and endurance will be equally relied upon in this challenge. Don’t have a team? That’s fine, sign up anyway and we will put you on a team!  We will classify teams in four groups and each group will have a staggered start time; Gazelles(6-8 min/mile 10K pace), Thoroughbreds(8-10 min/mile 10K pace), Clydesdales(10+ min/mile 10K pace) & Mules(If you plan to RUCK the event. Minimum weight requirement is 30 lbs).  The course is approximately 11-13 miles (ish) around town hitting at least 5 AO’s full of pain with some extra pain stations built in along the way.  We will start and end at Prestwood Country Club (because we’re classy like that, and Tater Salad is on the board) and the course will be both on and off pavement (WAY off pavement at times).

The Fox 2nd F

Bowtie is in charge of the entertainment this year.  His favorite types of music are death metal and Mexican mariachi so who knows what will happen.  No matter the band, immediately following the event there will be some solid Second F at the club with beer & food provided (bring your own lawn chair). This is really what makes the event worth while, sharing war stories from the event with your brothers, new and old alike. Winners for each class will be announced during this time so be sure to stick around.  I hear there may even be prizes! 

The Fox 2.0 Race

Be sure to bring the whole family! We will have a Fox 2.0 course set up for the young guns (boys and girls)! Race will start at 11:15.  Course will be approximately 2 miles with several “obstacles”. We will put 2.0’s on teams based on age or they can form their own team if preferred (sign them up as any racing class…it doesn’t matter) and each team will be accompanied by an adult (certainly your M or yourself are welcome to run as well). You don’t want to miss out on this part! T-shirts will be given to all who register!

The Why

Why give 3-4 hours of your Saturday to such a pointless and stupid event?  Because it’s actually the opposite of that.  You will push yourself to new heights and relish in the victory with your brothers of completing an event as tough as this!  And…because it’s not about you.  It’s about the guy who will be on your team that needs you there so that he can reach the next level.  Don’t let him down!

Who Are The Event Q’s?

Bow Tie, Ground Blind and Divac

Is It Ruck Friendly?

Heck yea!  We can’t promise there won’t be other heavy things to lift but this will be great training for anyone preparing for a GoRuck challenge.

What Kind Of Equipment Do I need?

Flippers, goggles, one of those triathlon unitard things….No really, normal workout gear should suffice.  I would recommend some high socks to protect your shins.  Remember, it’s both on and off pavement.

How Long Will This Take?

We’re not sure.  I would budget for AT LEAST 2.5 hours for the Gazelles (and that will be smoking it!)  Wheels up at 0630 for ruckers and we hope all will be enjoying some Second F by 1100.

What Does It Cost?

Nothing, zero, zilch, nada to participate.  BUT…it does cost to put the event on.  Last year we broke even, almost to the dollar! This year we are donating anything above cost to Cypress Adventures.  If there were a youth form of F3 & FIA, this would be it!  These kids are learning about leadership and doing most if it through experiences outside (sound familiar?)  (Website here)  So if you are so inclined please send a donation (in the amount of your choice, even $5 helps!) via PayPal to blake_faucette@yahoo.com  Please use “friends and family” method and indicate “The Fox” in the comments section.  All registrants (including 2.0’s) will get an event T-shirt.

Who Is Invited?

All men 18+.  All of F3 Nation is invited and this could be a good chance to get some FNG’s, if they like a challenge.

Do We Need Volunteers?

Yes. We will need volunteers for pain stations, hydration stations, photography, chase car and probably more that we haven’t thought of.  If you or your M or 2.0 would be willing to volunteer, please contact one of the Q’s, indicated in the comment section at the end of the post, or sign up here.

What Is The Route?

Now that would spoil all the fun…

Where Do I Sign Up?

Please sign up here.  Sign up as an individual or a team.  If you know your team make sure that each member includes the SAME team name.  If you sign up without a team we will group individuals together the best we can.

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6 Week Weight Loss Challenge – Spring 2019

Need to lose some weight but don’t have accountability? Love competition and winning money? Here’s your chance. If you’re like me and have been wanting to drop a few pounds, there’s absolutely no reason for you to say no to this challenge.

What: It’s simple. $20 buy in. Whoever loses the highest percentage of weight in 6 weeks wins the pot.

When: 04/11/2019 – 05/23/2019

Where: You must bring your cash to me on April 11th and we will all weigh in and out on the same scale that I provide. No exceptions. There will be three opportunities on the weigh-in and weigh-out days.

  • 5:00am @ The Clinic (This will be quick so you can make it back to your AO)
  • 5:15pm @ Revolution
  • 6:45pm @ Mac’s for Happy Hour

Details: Yes, there will be a chat and you will be added at weigh in. Yes, it will be gone when this challenge is over. You can direct your questions to the chat or me directly. If you fail to weigh in or out on the same day, you forfeit your chance at winning and it will go the the next in line.

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Operation Legacy Spring 2019: Hartsville, SC/GORUCK DONATION Info

 

Alright PAX,

We had 25 brave souls sign up for this event.  We have 1 female, 1 F3 Florence PAX, and 2 dudes I do not know attending this craziness.  They will probably quit life after 4 hours with me.  But, that does not include everyone that has donated to this cause.  There are a couple of Unsung Heroes out there.  To The Travis Manion Foundation you have donated $425.  That is awesome!  Now comes the actual event.

I emailed everyone who has registered more details about the event.  The only weight requirement in the bags is whatever donations they can fit inside it.  So if it is all canned spaghetti, that is roughly 20#.  This is your chance to Blue Falcon the Hell out of these 25 goons.  Judge Judy dropped off blue buckets with each AOQ to be filled up with donations.  That will help bring some pain but, we are also looking at getting a pallet of goods too.  If you want to donate to that and make nightmares come true, the information is posted below.  Yes, this is the fun part.

We are currently at $180 towards this pallet.  That’s 300 cans.  So, even a $5 donation helps make this event super special for the registered.  And if not to bring pain to your fellow man, think about this.  There are probably children that live next to you that struggle with hunger and you wouldn’t know it.  those little faces may smile at you in Church, at the grocery store, and when you are picking your 2.0’s up from school.

I thank everyone that has supported this so far from the bottom of my heart.  Now, let’s go the second mile.

Hit me or any of the ruckers up if, you want to drop items off.  Other than that,  the 19th and 0445 on the 20th is when we look to collect the donations.

Again, thank you very much.

Osegars@gmail.com is PayPal
Oliver Segars is venmo

“If not me, then who?”
Klinger

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Bricks and Stones May Hurt My Bones

If memory serves, Guest Q Blue Hawaii from Greenville?? introduced us to Jack Webb about 4 years ago at the 3rd or 4th Convergence of F3 Hartsville.  This Brick City Q is all about the bricks.

Weather

Cold enough for the bricks to numb your fingers

Warmup

Rather than head straight to the brick pile, YHC decided to do a few warmup stretches in case a straggler showed up late.  Sure enough, Barfly appears right after his favorite move, the Windmill.  He was visibly disappointed but joined in for a few frankensteins and cherry pickers.

The Main Thang

Mosey to brick pile and grab 2 bricks.

Jack webb (ratio of 1:4)

Round 1–1 Merkin/4 OH presses with bricks up to 10 & 40.  YHC found a way to “temporarily” silence the Mumblechatter Mafiosos Eisenhower, Barfly, and Judge Judy.  Unfortunately their silence was broken by some disturbing noises from Paperboy.  He may have cursed a few times as well.

Round 2–1 Deep Squat/4 jump lunges.  The jump lunge is YHC least favorite exercise.  We stopped at 7 and came back down the ladder.  Mosey to benches for Round 3

Round 3—1 Dip/4 brick tricep kickbacks.  For you math nerds, if you climb the ladder to 10 & 40, the total reps 55 &220.  Triceps were hurting, form was faltering

Mosey to far end of parking lot.  Brick bear crawl to light, 5 manmaker burpees with bricks.  Continue to all 4 lights and return to brick pile.  This was crowdpleaser with jelly arms.

Round 4—1 BBS/4 Russian twists with bricks.

At this point, YHC tacked on some cool down exercises.  SSH & Arm circles with bricks.

Mosey back to Splash pad.

Mary

Hold 6”, Dollies, Leg raises, Flutter kicks, 6”

Count-o-rama, Name-o-rama

Announcements

Happy 47th BDay Goldie, P200 this weekend, Oyster Roast March 30th

Devo

YHC remembers how Blue Hawaii opened up about his struggles and how F3 had helped him work through them and made him a better man.  Pax went around the circle and took turns asking for prayers

Aye!

Groundblind

 

 

 

 

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HC for Waterbug

Weather: Who cares?

F3Hartsville took a gut punch this past weekend. One of our Redwoods, a warrior, known and respected by all, ran his last mile. His finish line came up before any of us expected it to. In retrospect, I can’t think of a more fitting way for Waterbug to pass away. He was running with a couple of fellow pax, both of whom came into F3 out of shape and needing encouragement to step up as leaders of men. Both Paula Dean and Skinny Pete have been transformed by their participation in F3 in general and by their relationship with Waterbug specifically. The light shines brightest when the night is darkest.

To honor Waterbug’s legacy, everyone agreed that this special Tuesday Convergence should feature some classic Waterbug tortures.

LoveBug led us out.

All pax gathered up and planked in a moment of silence around the flag.

SSH IC x 20

Reach Thrus IC x 20

GroundBlind took over.

Count off in 4’s. Everybody got it right until some guy from Revo showed up late and said “FIVE!” We have to give Revo pax a pass, because they chose to stay up from last night’s HH and walked over from Mac’s. #Respect.

Station 1

Spartan bucket carry and spear throw. Lawn darts in the dark with a flashy hula-hoop while pax run close by is a thing. This ain’t no place for sissies. Speaking of sissies, YHC pulled up lame with a busted groin thanks to whuppin’ Southern Belle’s rump in the NFL Combine queue. The bucket finished YHC off. Judge Judy did my burpees.

Station 2

March Madness. WB was renowned for his work with balls. He loved his balls, especially sharing them with other pax. Only in F3 would that sentence be OK.

10 Merkins right hand on ball

5 Bball burpees/10 leg raises with ball

10 Merkins left hand on ball

5 Bball burpees/10 leg raises with ball

10 Diamond merkins on ball

5 Bball burpees/10 leg raises with ball

10 Elf on the shelf to the right/10 to the left

5 Bball burpees/10 leg raises with ball

10 Squat thrusters with the ball

5 Bball burpees/10 leg raises with ball

Station 3

Plank-o-rama

Waterbug was known for his yoga affinity. Many new pax would snicker until they started doing the workout.

High plank

Floyd Mayweathers (from plank position, reach through and punch, IC)

Catalina wine mixers IC

Superman/canoe

Low plank

Various planks till time is called

Station 4

12 Days of Christmas, Waterbug Style

It’s not the loud talkers that you need to fear. Eisenhower, Barfly and Judge Judy are harmless. It’s the quiet pax that scare me. Waterbug sat up late every night thinking of new ways to punish pax. Evidently Christmas time was especially hard for Waterbug, as he chose to take out all his anger and frustration from growing up in Goldilock’s shadow on the poor innocent pax who showed up for 12 Days of Christmas.

Perform Day 1 and run to cones and back.

Perform Day 2, then day 1 and run to cones and back.

Repeat and keep adding another day until you get to Day 12, Day 11, etc. etc.

1 x Diamond Merkin

2 x Jump Lunges (2 ct)

3 x Plyo or Hand release merkin

4 x Carolina Dry dock

5 x Burpees

6 x Plank Jacks

7 x Jump Squats

8 x Inchworms

9 x Ranger Merkins

10 x Mountain climbers (2 ct)

11 x Rollups

12 x Groiners

 

All pax gathered back up around the flag. YHC, aka Blue Falcon, requested a round of Banjo Bear Crawl, but the pax beat me down. Thunderbird came into the center and led the pax in some Jane Fonda/Richard Simmons inspired plank leg thrust twist thingy. Audit pretty much just laid on his side and tried to look like Hugh Hefner. Not sure why he would do that in front of a bunch of men. Judgement Free Zone.

Count-off

All pax counted off. Revo dudes evidently were fully awake as we got it right all the way around the circle.

Name-O-Rama

In a beautiful display of solidarity, memory and respect, each pax said, “Farrell Talbert. 45. Waterbug” one at a time. It took a while, because we had so many pax, which made it even more powerful. Waterbug’s name resonated across the field. His name will not be forgotten. His legacy is written on our lives.

Announcements

1pm Visitation at the Lakeview Baptist Church Family Life Center (Gym)

2pm Funeral service. All pax are requested by Waterbug’s M to sit together and wear an F3 armband.

Graveside memorial with F3 participation. Details to follow

5:30pm Revolution Waterbug Q

BOM and Devo by Divac

One of Waterbug’s last Q’s was a Convergence Christmas Q, where he opened up about his battle with depression. It was tough for him to get through it, but he did it. The pax stepped up and showed great support for him. Waterbug was excellent at all things, including his Devo’s.

Transparency vs. Vulnerability

I thought about telling a highlight reel of stories of Waterbug.  But there have been a lot of stories shared already and I know later today and in the days and weeks to come more and more will be told.  All of these stories are great and true.  But the gloom is meant to get better, to sharpen each other.  That’s what Waterbug did every chance he had so that’s what we’ll do this morning.

A few weeks ago, at the anniversary convergence we spoke about living more out of our true selves.  In the COT we regularly see brothers be transparent.  This is something few men in our society do.  Few men get up in front of others and share what is going on in their lives.  But guys, I’m here to tell you it’s not enough. What we need is not transparency but vulnerability.

“Transparency” means, by definition, the ability to see through something. So when someone’s being transparent with you, they’re letting you see into their lives. They’ll let you know what’s going on and even inform you about how they’ve been feeling. But while people who are transparent will share openly, they do so in a self-conscious, controlled way. In other words, they’re presenting a processed, polished version of themselves.

“Vulnerability” though is a little different. When someone’s being vulnerable, they’re making themselves susceptible to the judgment of others. Vulnerability means they don’t just let you know what’s going on in their lives – they let you actually see how everything is affecting them. This involves them letting their guard down and relinquishing control. In other words, they’re presenting an unprocessed, unpolished version of themselves.

The tricky thing about “transparency” is that it makes us think we know a person. After all, they’re opening and sharing about themselves. But that’s the thing – people who are only transparent tend to only share about themselves. We know a lot of facts about them, but we don’t really know them.

For example, if a friend told me that he lost his job, I’d feel sad and hope he finds a new one soon. However, if he told me he lost his job and now he feels completely lost – I’d feel strangely closer with him. Why? Well when someone loses their job, that tells me about his circumstances. But when he tells me how he’s handling his circumstances, that tells me a lot about him.

And that’s why it’s probably difficult for us to be vulnerable with others because when doing so, we’re letting people get to know the real us. And we don’t want people to know the real us because if they do, then they now have the power to reject us. And we don’t want that. That’s why it’s easier to put people at arms-length and tell them just enough so that they don’t have to really know us.

We can’t be vulnerable with everyone.  We can’t be vulnerable with our entire AO.  We can be transparent, and that’s a good thing.  But the hard thing, which is what we do in F3, is intentionally cultivating those relationships with a few people where we can be vulnerable.

We love you Waterbug.

 

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It Will Be a Shuckin’ Good Time!

3/30/19 – F3 Hartsville 4 Year Anniversary Shindig

 

Location: Last Rites’ House

Come one, come all!  Those who attended last year remember fellowship and Stallion winning not one but two awards.  Those of you who weren’t a part of this crazy thing we call F3 Hartsville last year, come get some great 2nd F with us this year.

What:

A party for all of F3 Hartsville AND the families of F3 Hartsville

This year we are back to shuckin’ oysters!  We will have other stuff to eat as long as you bring it (that means bring an appetizer to share).  Also, we will be taking monetary donations to apply to service projects in our community (3rdF).  That’s what F3 is all about!

Awards.  I did mention awards.  Divac will be sending out ballots shortly for your voting pleasure.  Don’t feel too bad if you don’t win one.  I know it’s hard for some, but be a man about it.  Did I mention Stallion won two last year?  Don’t let that happen again.

When:

Saturday, March 30 6:00pm. Come early to help set up if you can.

Where:

1121 Pine Lake Drive, Hartsville

How:

RSVP here by 3/23: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1MooOZrey4WZZp-WGqrPBDRKnifmQMltl_2lPRIVgkAc/edit?usp=sharing  so we can know how many oysters to buy

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