Farsight Fox Preview

The Fox is coming up, so YHC took this opportunity scout out the other AO’s while building up some excitement.  A solid group of 11 showed up and YHC wondered aloud if the fire ants and mosquitoes were still biting.  Karate Kid piped up and said that’s “just part of the pain of suffering.”  I like the attitude.

 

 

 

Warmup/The Main THANG

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I guess you just had to be there.

 

Announcements

Fox-need signups if you want tshirts, water coolers, $$, volunteer

 

Moleskin

Live for today.  Matthew 24:36 & Matthew 6:34

 

Aye!

Groundblind

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Operation Legacy AAR

Between the hours of 0500 and 0900 on 20190420 EST, Operation Legacy was successfully completed.

GORUCK and the Travis Manion Foundation teamed up and put forth a challenge to the GORUCK Ruck Clubs to carry out service projects in honor of Fallen Heroes. The standards were to have at least 5 members in a team, ruck a few miles, complete a service project of any size, and tag it all using social media.

I started planning as soon as I got the first email on 20 March. I knew I could get 5 to do something but, I wanted it bigger. I saw a post from Carolina’s Kids that was shared by Krispy Kreme that showed empty shelves. That tugged at my heart. I had found our objective.
I started posting information once or twice a day on either GroupMe or Facebook. While thinking of who we could honor, I realized that there were names on the wall at my unit of 3 KIA i did not know. Anyone Hero would due but, it bothered me that i didn’t thier sacrifice. Names easily forgotten.

By the first deadline on 01 April I had 25 registered. I was excited. My standard for this event was going to be fill a ruck with donations and ruck that as the weight. Even that amount would have helped our objective.

Judge Judy started talking up the donation drive for the AO’s to support. That surprised me. He hadn’t even registered. Oliver Segars started collecting money donations towards a pallet of canned goods. I knew then my standards had to change.

Fox and Arrow was my main focus. But, other F3 Hartsville PAX were making a huge dent on this objective with thier own donations towards the TMF, the AO bucket collection, and the pallet.
39 donations were pledged on our TMF link which totaled to $425. The money towards the pallet actually became 2 pallets. The total weight of the food from the AO’s, rucks, and pallets came to around 2200lbs. Wow!

The actual event had a welcome party, a tactical movement with 3 improvised litters, PT sessions, and time hacks. I even involved the regular Convergence crowd. As much as i like sharing about those 4 hours, it goes against my principles of Silence, Violence, and Silence i use for my Operations.

I want to focus on the impact of this event. Andrea Pulling told me this was very touching to her. Spring Break is a rough time for these kids. We were able to plus them up from that need and secure enough food for the rest of the school year. That’s a job well done and some bellies filled. Thank you all for helping and donating to this event.

I use the word “I” a lot in this BB. It was not me, it was Him. I have felt the hand of God throughout this project. I am glad God saw fit to have me lead this. And I am grateful for everyone who stood in this gap with me.

Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart. And, may God continue to bless you.

Aye!
KLINGER

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WarZone Alphabet

Weather- clear & 61 degrees

YHC had the Q for today and pulled out an oldie but a goodie. The Exicon has changed a little since the last time this 1 was done so a few exercises were new to the PAX.  It still makes for an entertaining workout. The idea is to spell your F3 name by doing the exercises listed. SO YHC had to do exercises starting with D-U-M-P-E-R or another name like E-I-S-E-N-H-O-W-E-R (Oh wait, he didn’t bother to show up)

WarmUp

15 IC LoveMe’s

15 IC OverheadClaps

15 IC ReachThru’s

15 IC ImperialWalkers

The Thang

The PAX headed over to the brick pile and grabbed a few coupons to use along the way. The Board was explained and we got busy. The PAX ran thru their F3 name 3 times then started at A and worked to Z. Time called at 6:12

Count, Name-o-rama, Announcements

Good Friday Ruck,The Fox, Can drive/RuckFest Saturday

Devo-

Maundy Thursday (also known as Holy Thursday, Covenant Thursday, Great and Holy Thursday, Sheer Thursday, and Thursday of Mysteries, among other names) is the Christian holy day falling on the Thursday before Easter. It commemorates the Maundy and Last Supper of Jesus Christ with the Apostles, as described in the canonical gospels.[1]
It is the fifth day of Holy Week, preceded by Holy Wednesday and followed by Good Friday.[2] “Maundy” comes from the Latin word mandatum, or commandment, reflecting Jesus’ words “I give you a new commandment.”[3] The day comes always between March 19 and April 22, inclusive, and will vary according to whether the Gregorian calendar or the Julian calendar is used. Eastern churches generally use the Julian system.
Maundy Thursday initiates the Easter Triduum, the period which commemorates the passion, death, and resurrection of Jesus; this period includes Good Friday and Holy Saturday, and ends on the evening of Easter.[1][4] The Mass of the Lord’s Supper or service of worship is normally celebrated in the evening, when Friday begins according to Jewish tradition, as the Last Supper was held on the feast of Passover, according to the three Synoptic Gospels.[5

Wall-e Closed us out

 

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F3 Hartsville Presents the 4th Edition of The Fox #CSAUP

B.L.U.F. – It’s hard. You’ll get better. Sign up HERE

It’s baaaack!

Mark your calendars now! Back for the fourth consecutive year on Saturday May 11th the PAX of F3 Hartsville will host the #CSAUP that F3 Nation will be talking about the rest of the year…The Fox!

You’ve heard of The Goat and The Mule and some little fun run called The Yeti…well The Fox eats Goats, Mules and Yetis for breakfast!  That’s probably not true but after cementing The Fox into the #CSAUP Hall Of Fame last year, YHC and team have raised the bar yet again. Through each stage of planning we have erred on the side of “choosing the hard thing”. You’d think we would be experienced by now…but no, we still don’t exactly know what we’re doing so it will definitely be Completely Stupid and Utterly Pointless.

What is The Fox?

This is a team event.  Put your three or four man team together considering speed, strength and endurance will be equally relied upon in this challenge. Don’t have a team? That’s fine, sign up anyway and we will put you on a team!  We will classify teams in four groups and each group will have a staggered start time; Gazelles(6-8 min/mile 10K pace), Thoroughbreds(8-10 min/mile 10K pace), Clydesdales(10+ min/mile 10K pace) & Mules(If you plan to RUCK the event. Minimum weight requirement is 30 lbs).  The course is approximately 11-13 miles (ish) around town hitting at least 5 AO’s full of pain with some extra pain stations built in along the way.  We will start and end at Prestwood Country Club (because we’re classy like that, and Tater Salad is on the board) and the course will be both on and off pavement (WAY off pavement at times).

The Fox 2nd F

Bowtie is in charge of the entertainment this year.  His favorite types of music are death metal and Mexican mariachi so who knows what will happen.  No matter the band, immediately following the event there will be some solid Second F at the club with beer & food provided (bring your own lawn chair). This is really what makes the event worth while, sharing war stories from the event with your brothers, new and old alike. Winners for each class will be announced during this time so be sure to stick around.  I hear there may even be prizes! 

The Fox 2.0 Race

Be sure to bring the whole family! We will have a Fox 2.0 course set up for the young guns (boys and girls)! Race will start at 11:15.  Course will be approximately 2 miles with several “obstacles”. We will put 2.0’s on teams based on age or they can form their own team if preferred (sign them up as any racing class…it doesn’t matter) and each team will be accompanied by an adult (certainly your M or yourself are welcome to run as well). You don’t want to miss out on this part! T-shirts will be given to all who register!

The Why

Why give 3-4 hours of your Saturday to such a pointless and stupid event?  Because it’s actually the opposite of that.  You will push yourself to new heights and relish in the victory with your brothers of completing an event as tough as this!  And…because it’s not about you.  It’s about the guy who will be on your team that needs you there so that he can reach the next level.  Don’t let him down!

Who Are The Event Q’s?

Bow Tie, Ground Blind and Divac

Is It Ruck Friendly?

Heck yea!  We can’t promise there won’t be other heavy things to lift but this will be great training for anyone preparing for a GoRuck challenge.

What Kind Of Equipment Do I need?

Flippers, goggles, one of those triathlon unitard things….No really, normal workout gear should suffice.  I would recommend some high socks to protect your shins.  Remember, it’s both on and off pavement.

How Long Will This Take?

We’re not sure.  I would budget for AT LEAST 2.5 hours for the Gazelles (and that will be smoking it!)  Wheels up at 0630 for ruckers and we hope all will be enjoying some Second F by 1100.

What Does It Cost?

Nothing, zero, zilch, nada to participate.  BUT…it does cost to put the event on.  Last year we broke even, almost to the dollar! This year we are donating anything above cost to Cypress Adventures.  If there were a youth form of F3 & FIA, this would be it!  These kids are learning about leadership and doing most if it through experiences outside (sound familiar?)  (Website here)  So if you are so inclined please send a donation (in the amount of your choice, even $5 helps!) via PayPal to blake_faucette@yahoo.com  Please use “friends and family” method and indicate “The Fox” in the comments section.  All registrants (including 2.0’s) will get an event T-shirt.

Who Is Invited?

All men 18+.  All of F3 Nation is invited and this could be a good chance to get some FNG’s, if they like a challenge.

Do We Need Volunteers?

Yes. We will need volunteers for pain stations, hydration stations, photography, chase car and probably more that we haven’t thought of.  If you or your M or 2.0 would be willing to volunteer, please contact one of the Q’s, indicated in the comment section at the end of the post, or sign up here.

What Is The Route?

Now that would spoil all the fun…

Where Do I Sign Up?

Please sign up here.  Sign up as an individual or a team.  If you know your team make sure that each member includes the SAME team name.  If you sign up without a team we will group individuals together the best we can.

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6 Week Weight Loss Challenge – Spring 2019

Need to lose some weight but don’t have accountability? Love competition and winning money? Here’s your chance. If you’re like me and have been wanting to drop a few pounds, there’s absolutely no reason for you to say no to this challenge.

What: It’s simple. $20 buy in. Whoever loses the highest percentage of weight in 6 weeks wins the pot.

When: 04/11/2019 – 05/23/2019

Where: You must bring your cash to me on April 11th and we will all weigh in and out on the same scale that I provide. No exceptions. There will be three opportunities on the weigh-in and weigh-out days.

  • 5:00am @ The Clinic (This will be quick so you can make it back to your AO)
  • 5:15pm @ Revolution
  • 6:45pm @ Mac’s for Happy Hour

Details: Yes, there will be a chat and you will be added at weigh in. Yes, it will be gone when this challenge is over. You can direct your questions to the chat or me directly. If you fail to weigh in or out on the same day, you forfeit your chance at winning and it will go the the next in line.

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Fools in the Rain

Pretty sure Pirates don’t like sailing ships in the cold wind and rain.  But it’s Piratesville, for goodness sakes.  You’re supposed to get wet.  That’s what makes it FUN!  Upon arrival, the PAX hastily headed for the shelter of the bathroom building and huddled up like a bunch of sheep. YHC had a master plan involving a lot of coupons and team work.  However, after hearing the steady downpour this am and fearing a poor turnout and possible mutiny, YHC quickly went to work on a backup Q.  Some of it was planned and some of it was improvised.

Weather

Wet, cold, and windy

Hears how it went down….

Warmup

SSH x 50, Windmills x 20 IC, Mountain climbers x 20 IC, Striking cobras x 20 IC, Merkins x 15 IC, Leg raises x 20, Flutter kicks x 20 IC, run a lap around the parking lot.

Barely a drizzle at this point, but Mumblechatter King wannabe Barfly starts whining about the wind and rain and the concrete and burpees.

The Main Thang

AMRAP

  • 20 Burpees
  • 20 Merkins
  • 20 Jump Lunges (each leg)
  • 20 BBS
  • 20 Monkey Humpers
  • 20 Mountain climbers (2 count)
  • Run lap around parking lot

The PAX completed 3-4 rounds.  Multiple PAX, especially Mumblechatter runnerup Barfly requested a reduction in reps each round.  Request DENIED.  Suck it up.

Judge Judy, still bristling from his 1st loser of the 1st F award, was on a mission.  He dominated this event.  Clearly Judy got spread too thin vying for the fashion, mumblechatter and 1st F awards.

Divide into 2 teams.  Complete the team reps, run a lap and move on to next round.

  • Round 1–100 merkins
  • Round 2–200 monkey humpers
  • Round 3–300 Freddie mercuries 2 count

Winkles threw Judge Judy and YHC on his back and crushed the 4 man team of Paula Dean, Bowtie, Stepshow, and Barfly.

Mary

An assortment including Dollies, Box cutters, Planks

Count-o-rama, Name-o-rama

Announcements

Oyster Roast recap, FOX May 11

Devo/Moleskin

Ecclesiastes 4:8-12

8There was a man all alone; he had neither son nor brother.
There was no end to his toil, yet his eyes were not content with his wealth.
“For whom am I toiling,” he asked,“and why am I depriving myself of enjoyment?”
This too is meaningless—a miserable business!

Two are better than one,because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.  A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

The message I glean from the first few verses is that we are not meant to be alone.  Whatever we do alone will be in vain and we will never find joy. The second half of the passage reveals how much stronger we can be when we depend on others.  Like most men, I don’t like asking for help and I want to fix my own problems.  But that is not how we were designed.  Be willing to offer a helping hand and be open to receiving a helping hand as well.

Aye!

Groundblind

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Operation Legacy Spring 2019: Hartsville, SC/GORUCK DONATION Info

 

Alright PAX,

We had 25 brave souls sign up for this event.  We have 1 female, 1 F3 Florence PAX, and 2 dudes I do not know attending this craziness.  They will probably quit life after 4 hours with me.  But, that does not include everyone that has donated to this cause.  There are a couple of Unsung Heroes out there.  To The Travis Manion Foundation you have donated $425.  That is awesome!  Now comes the actual event.

I emailed everyone who has registered more details about the event.  The only weight requirement in the bags is whatever donations they can fit inside it.  So if it is all canned spaghetti, that is roughly 20#.  This is your chance to Blue Falcon the Hell out of these 25 goons.  Judge Judy dropped off blue buckets with each AOQ to be filled up with donations.  That will help bring some pain but, we are also looking at getting a pallet of goods too.  If you want to donate to that and make nightmares come true, the information is posted below.  Yes, this is the fun part.

We are currently at $180 towards this pallet.  That’s 300 cans.  So, even a $5 donation helps make this event super special for the registered.  And if not to bring pain to your fellow man, think about this.  There are probably children that live next to you that struggle with hunger and you wouldn’t know it.  those little faces may smile at you in Church, at the grocery store, and when you are picking your 2.0’s up from school.

I thank everyone that has supported this so far from the bottom of my heart.  Now, let’s go the second mile.

Hit me or any of the ruckers up if, you want to drop items off.  Other than that,  the 19th and 0445 on the 20th is when we look to collect the donations.

Again, thank you very much.

Osegars@gmail.com is PayPal
Oliver Segars is venmo

“If not me, then who?”
Klinger

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Bricks and Stones May Hurt My Bones

If memory serves, Guest Q Blue Hawaii from Greenville?? introduced us to Jack Webb about 4 years ago at the 3rd or 4th Convergence of F3 Hartsville.  This Brick City Q is all about the bricks.

Weather

Cold enough for the bricks to numb your fingers

Warmup

Rather than head straight to the brick pile, YHC decided to do a few warmup stretches in case a straggler showed up late.  Sure enough, Barfly appears right after his favorite move, the Windmill.  He was visibly disappointed but joined in for a few frankensteins and cherry pickers.

The Main Thang

Mosey to brick pile and grab 2 bricks.

Jack webb (ratio of 1:4)

Round 1–1 Merkin/4 OH presses with bricks up to 10 & 40.  YHC found a way to “temporarily” silence the Mumblechatter Mafiosos Eisenhower, Barfly, and Judge Judy.  Unfortunately their silence was broken by some disturbing noises from Paperboy.  He may have cursed a few times as well.

Round 2–1 Deep Squat/4 jump lunges.  The jump lunge is YHC least favorite exercise.  We stopped at 7 and came back down the ladder.  Mosey to benches for Round 3

Round 3—1 Dip/4 brick tricep kickbacks.  For you math nerds, if you climb the ladder to 10 & 40, the total reps 55 &220.  Triceps were hurting, form was faltering

Mosey to far end of parking lot.  Brick bear crawl to light, 5 manmaker burpees with bricks.  Continue to all 4 lights and return to brick pile.  This was crowdpleaser with jelly arms.

Round 4—1 BBS/4 Russian twists with bricks.

At this point, YHC tacked on some cool down exercises.  SSH & Arm circles with bricks.

Mosey back to Splash pad.

Mary

Hold 6”, Dollies, Leg raises, Flutter kicks, 6”

Count-o-rama, Name-o-rama

Announcements

Happy 47th BDay Goldie, P200 this weekend, Oyster Roast March 30th

Devo

YHC remembers how Blue Hawaii opened up about his struggles and how F3 had helped him work through them and made him a better man.  Pax went around the circle and took turns asking for prayers

Aye!

Groundblind

 

 

 

 

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Prefontaine- 3152019

Weather – 61 with a head wind on half the track

YHC rolled in a little early to set up a few cones on the track only to see WoodChip’s truck. I peaked in hoping to catch him sleeping, but no luck. He was out logging 5 miles early so the rest of us would have a chance during the workout.

WarmUp- 5:29:30, take a slow mosey lap  yeah we started 30 seconds early, but I mean if your not there yet then what’s 30 seconds (BarFly, JudyJudy)

After warmup lap the disclaimer was given (figured I better since Stallion posted)

The Thang

4X 400m fast, 400m at a 10:00/mi pace- this give you 2:30 in recovery

30sec standing recovery after 8- 400’s

4X 200m fast, 200m at 10:00/pace- gives 1:15 recovery jog

30sec standing recovery after 8- 200’s

4X 100m fast, 100m 10:00/pace- gives 35-40secs recovery

Done—YHC was worried about running out of time in the allotted 45 mins but we finished in about 38mins.

Today’s goal was to hit a speed on the fast laps that was below your 5K pace, and YHC will say everyone smashed those numbers. The first lap is your standard while all following laps are to be as close to #1 as possible. YHC will also admit that he went out fast on that 1st lap at a 1:30, and couldn’t maintain for 3 more. The next 3 were 1:38 each.  I did keep my 200’s and 100’s closer to that 6:00 pace & was still at the back.

15 laps= 3.75mi (YHC is pretty sure a few speedsters ran 1 extra mosey lap after the 400’s, YHC did not)

2:00-400 8:00mi/pace

1:45-400= 7:00mi/pace

1:30-400 = 6:00mi/pace

1:25- 400= 5:40mi/pace

1:20- 400 = 5:20mi/pace

I didn’t hear any faster than a 1:20 but could have been.

Count, Names, Announcements, Devo

In relation to our spiritual lives, consistent track workouts can be like Bible study, prayer, daily control of emotions, choosing to do what is right instead of what is convenient, and resisting sin. All these things are difficult and sometimes painful but the joy of doing what you know the Lord wants you to do will strengthen your spirit. Then, when life turns into “race day” and you are hurting and fatigued, all your previous “training” can give you encouragement, peace, and confidence during great trials.

2 Corinthians 4:16-18 (NASB)
Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day.  For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison, while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.

Audit prayed us out

YHC was really dreading this after Nutter broke out a damn 45min Q of race your tail off yesterday.  But after a mosey lap before everyone showed up the tightness eased off, and having 11 other guys there eases yesterday’s pain and turns up today’s pain.

 

 

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HC for Waterbug

Weather: Who cares?

F3Hartsville took a gut punch this past weekend. One of our Redwoods, a warrior, known and respected by all, ran his last mile. His finish line came up before any of us expected it to. In retrospect, I can’t think of a more fitting way for Waterbug to pass away. He was running with a couple of fellow pax, both of whom came into F3 out of shape and needing encouragement to step up as leaders of men. Both Paula Dean and Skinny Pete have been transformed by their participation in F3 in general and by their relationship with Waterbug specifically. The light shines brightest when the night is darkest.

To honor Waterbug’s legacy, everyone agreed that this special Tuesday Convergence should feature some classic Waterbug tortures.

LoveBug led us out.

All pax gathered up and planked in a moment of silence around the flag.

SSH IC x 20

Reach Thrus IC x 20

GroundBlind took over.

Count off in 4’s. Everybody got it right until some guy from Revo showed up late and said “FIVE!” We have to give Revo pax a pass, because they chose to stay up from last night’s HH and walked over from Mac’s. #Respect.

Station 1

Spartan bucket carry and spear throw. Lawn darts in the dark with a flashy hula-hoop while pax run close by is a thing. This ain’t no place for sissies. Speaking of sissies, YHC pulled up lame with a busted groin thanks to whuppin’ Southern Belle’s rump in the NFL Combine queue. The bucket finished YHC off. Judge Judy did my burpees.

Station 2

March Madness. WB was renowned for his work with balls. He loved his balls, especially sharing them with other pax. Only in F3 would that sentence be OK.

10 Merkins right hand on ball

5 Bball burpees/10 leg raises with ball

10 Merkins left hand on ball

5 Bball burpees/10 leg raises with ball

10 Diamond merkins on ball

5 Bball burpees/10 leg raises with ball

10 Elf on the shelf to the right/10 to the left

5 Bball burpees/10 leg raises with ball

10 Squat thrusters with the ball

5 Bball burpees/10 leg raises with ball

Station 3

Plank-o-rama

Waterbug was known for his yoga affinity. Many new pax would snicker until they started doing the workout.

High plank

Floyd Mayweathers (from plank position, reach through and punch, IC)

Catalina wine mixers IC

Superman/canoe

Low plank

Various planks till time is called

Station 4

12 Days of Christmas, Waterbug Style

It’s not the loud talkers that you need to fear. Eisenhower, Barfly and Judge Judy are harmless. It’s the quiet pax that scare me. Waterbug sat up late every night thinking of new ways to punish pax. Evidently Christmas time was especially hard for Waterbug, as he chose to take out all his anger and frustration from growing up in Goldilock’s shadow on the poor innocent pax who showed up for 12 Days of Christmas.

Perform Day 1 and run to cones and back.

Perform Day 2, then day 1 and run to cones and back.

Repeat and keep adding another day until you get to Day 12, Day 11, etc. etc.

1 x Diamond Merkin

2 x Jump Lunges (2 ct)

3 x Plyo or Hand release merkin

4 x Carolina Dry dock

5 x Burpees

6 x Plank Jacks

7 x Jump Squats

8 x Inchworms

9 x Ranger Merkins

10 x Mountain climbers (2 ct)

11 x Rollups

12 x Groiners

 

All pax gathered back up around the flag. YHC, aka Blue Falcon, requested a round of Banjo Bear Crawl, but the pax beat me down. Thunderbird came into the center and led the pax in some Jane Fonda/Richard Simmons inspired plank leg thrust twist thingy. Audit pretty much just laid on his side and tried to look like Hugh Hefner. Not sure why he would do that in front of a bunch of men. Judgement Free Zone.

Count-off

All pax counted off. Revo dudes evidently were fully awake as we got it right all the way around the circle.

Name-O-Rama

In a beautiful display of solidarity, memory and respect, each pax said, “Farrell Talbert. 45. Waterbug” one at a time. It took a while, because we had so many pax, which made it even more powerful. Waterbug’s name resonated across the field. His name will not be forgotten. His legacy is written on our lives.

Announcements

1pm Visitation at the Lakeview Baptist Church Family Life Center (Gym)

2pm Funeral service. All pax are requested by Waterbug’s M to sit together and wear an F3 armband.

Graveside memorial with F3 participation. Details to follow

5:30pm Revolution Waterbug Q

BOM and Devo by Divac

One of Waterbug’s last Q’s was a Convergence Christmas Q, where he opened up about his battle with depression. It was tough for him to get through it, but he did it. The pax stepped up and showed great support for him. Waterbug was excellent at all things, including his Devo’s.

Transparency vs. Vulnerability

I thought about telling a highlight reel of stories of Waterbug.  But there have been a lot of stories shared already and I know later today and in the days and weeks to come more and more will be told.  All of these stories are great and true.  But the gloom is meant to get better, to sharpen each other.  That’s what Waterbug did every chance he had so that’s what we’ll do this morning.

A few weeks ago, at the anniversary convergence we spoke about living more out of our true selves.  In the COT we regularly see brothers be transparent.  This is something few men in our society do.  Few men get up in front of others and share what is going on in their lives.  But guys, I’m here to tell you it’s not enough. What we need is not transparency but vulnerability.

“Transparency” means, by definition, the ability to see through something. So when someone’s being transparent with you, they’re letting you see into their lives. They’ll let you know what’s going on and even inform you about how they’ve been feeling. But while people who are transparent will share openly, they do so in a self-conscious, controlled way. In other words, they’re presenting a processed, polished version of themselves.

“Vulnerability” though is a little different. When someone’s being vulnerable, they’re making themselves susceptible to the judgment of others. Vulnerability means they don’t just let you know what’s going on in their lives – they let you actually see how everything is affecting them. This involves them letting their guard down and relinquishing control. In other words, they’re presenting an unprocessed, unpolished version of themselves.

The tricky thing about “transparency” is that it makes us think we know a person. After all, they’re opening and sharing about themselves. But that’s the thing – people who are only transparent tend to only share about themselves. We know a lot of facts about them, but we don’t really know them.

For example, if a friend told me that he lost his job, I’d feel sad and hope he finds a new one soon. However, if he told me he lost his job and now he feels completely lost – I’d feel strangely closer with him. Why? Well when someone loses their job, that tells me about his circumstances. But when he tells me how he’s handling his circumstances, that tells me a lot about him.

And that’s why it’s probably difficult for us to be vulnerable with others because when doing so, we’re letting people get to know the real us. And we don’t want people to know the real us because if they do, then they now have the power to reject us. And we don’t want that. That’s why it’s easier to put people at arms-length and tell them just enough so that they don’t have to really know us.

We can’t be vulnerable with everyone.  We can’t be vulnerable with our entire AO.  We can be transparent, and that’s a good thing.  But the hard thing, which is what we do in F3, is intentionally cultivating those relationships with a few people where we can be vulnerable.

We love you Waterbug.

 

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